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Assessing the damage

I bet I can guess what you dreamt about last night. You dreamt about a partner who said that she couldn’t possibly have a better lover than you, that she can’t wait for you to come home each day. You dreamt about being in a relationship that was exciting, sexy and emotionally nurturing; you were able to make love as long as you wanted, as many times as you liked, and there wasn’t any trace of doubt in your mind that you were able to satisfy your partner on all levels: body, heart and soul.

But what happened upon waking up? Did you get to relive your dream or did you get stuck, like the majority of us, in the routine of a relationship that is imperfect and messy? If you answered yes to the first part of my question, congratulations! Go ahead and throw this book away, you don’t need it. If your yes came in response to the second part of my question, congratulations too! You might be in trouble, but we get to chat a little bit more and I get to save your relationship.

So let me continue with my guessing exercise, it’s fun and I get to wow you with my psychic powers. You entered your relationship starry-eyed, convinced that you’ll beat the odds and enjoy everlasting joy and happiness, because the love and attraction that united you and your girlfriend or wife was never going to fade off. Or so you thought.

Then reality came creeping through the keyholes. You realized you can’t have sex with anybody else. What a bummer, right? You noticed how she really looks without makeup or how noisy is her soup-sipping. You started getting annoyed by her constant chatter or by her bathroom routines. To sum up, you started to have doubts, trivial or otherwise, which soon led to disillusionment, lack of communication (and sex!) and eventually fights.

Your backing-up-because-I’m-not-so-sure-anymore attitude nurtured doubt inside your partner as well, who soon started to notice that you’ve got flaws also, and by the time it took you to ask yourself what was happening, your couple love song went from Whitney Houston’s I will always love you to Barbra Streisand’s:

“You don’t bring me flowers
You don’t sing me love songs
You hardly talk to me anymore
When you come thru the door.”

Yes, relationships are messy. They are rarely what you think they should be and you are rarely what you think you should be when you are in love. On one hand, you want love to be enough, but on the other hand you are rarely satisfied with the love you have.

      

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